Today marks the last year of my 20s and I’m still trying to
figure out where the time went.
Yesterday morning I didn’t want to be bothered or go out.
After reflecting on my last eight birthdays, I felt like I had squandered them
away. I haven’t had any extravagant birthday bashes or trips, but I’ve grown a
lot over the last eight years. Looking back on my 20th birthday all
the way up to today reminds me how far I’ve come. 2008 seems so long ago, but
it feels like I just turned 25.
After being in my feelings, I had to remind myself that
there’s no timeline on life. You won’t have it “together” at age 25 and you
won’t have it all figured out at 29 either.
I may not be exactly where I want to be, but I have another
chance to work towards it. Extravagant birthdays are nice, but lessons are
great too. I went into my birthday weekend thinking it was gonna suck because
of the rainy weather and it ended up being sunny today. I’m grateful for all my
friends and family who sent love my way today.
The last year of my 20s will be about me trying to become a
better version of myself as always. Eating more veggies, taking my ass to the
gym, not renewing a library book five times, ya know, little things.
So here’s to another year of growth, discovery and more life
I had to do it. I love Drake and he just gets it. Deal
Anyway, here’s to Year 29!
So you’re done with high school and you’re starting college
in a week. I know you wanted to go away for school, but you have some maturing
to do. You’ll get to leave, I promise. You may feel stagnant sometimes and
things might get tough, but you’ll get through it. Besides, you’ll be busy as
hell three years from now in a totally different environment. All of this is
temporary. Just knock these prerequisites out and keep it moving.
Well, you did it. You graduated from college. You thought
the day would never come, but it’s here! You were a totally different person
when you came to TSU at 20-years-old, but you’ve learned valuable lessons and
made lifelong friends in the process. When you think of this place, think about
what it took for you to get here and never take it for granted. You gained much
more than a degree.
Even though you matured and learned a lot about yourself,
college was still a safety net. It’s gonna be scary and stressful trying to
figure out what’s next, but do yourself a favor and relax. Listen to Dad. He
may sound insensitive now, but you need to go home. You didn’t have a plan
mapped out for post-graduation so the best thing for you to do is go home. Go home
and enjoy not having to do anything for the first time in five years. You’ll be
able to eat home cooked meals again and the days of sleeping in an extra large
twin bed and dragging your clothes to the laundry room to
wash clothes are done! Appreciate the little things.
Be prepared for growing pains. Be prepared to feel lost.
You’re gonna argue with Mom and Dad because parents don’t get it. Take
everything as a lesson and apply it in the future so you know how to navigate
it or help someone else navigate it. The same way you had to fight to get your
degree, you’ll have to fight even harder to find your place in the "real world". Oh yeah, start a savings account. You'll need it.
And last, but not least, do not put deadlines on your life.
Don’t stress yourself out because you aren’t living in a condo in NYC by age
25. We’ve been trained to think we have to set all these unrealistic goals by a
certain age in order to be “successful”. Five years from now, you won’t even
wanna move to New York. It sounds crazy now, but trust me on this. Be thankful
for the things you have and continue to work for the things you want.
Last thing, don’t become complacent, because that’s not who
you are. Be good to yourself and stay encouraged.
So here we are with an update – six months later I’m
terrible, I know. As if I wasn’t already a slacker, the last five months of
2015 had me all over the place and overwhelmed, but here I am and happy new
year! I hope the first couple of weeks of 2016 have been good to you. They’ve
been okay and I feel a lot more driven this time around. I know in the past
I’ve said that this year would be “the year” that I did this and did that, but
I’m not gonna do that this year because it hasn’t been effective thus far.
I’m a procrastinator who gets so overwhelmed at the thought
of all the things I want to do that I end up doing nothing at all. Simply put, I
want to put an end to that this year. I acknowledge that I suck at resolutions
so I chose to stray away from that this year. I wrote out my goals for the
year, big and small. Things such as using my library card and drinking more
water are things I want to do.
(By the way, I’m participating in the Goodreads 2016 Reading
Challenge. Feel free to follow me here
I’m open to reading suggestions! I’m almost finished with #GIRLBOSS
by Sophia Amoruso. Next up is, Leave Your Mark
by Aliza Licht.
I also have major goals, but I’ve chosen not to speak on
them out loud. I’d just rather work towards them little by little. My friend
pointed out making monthly goals for herself instead since she doesn’t do well
with long-term goals. I’ve decided to give that a try. Because I get
overwhelmed to the point of not doing anything at all, I’ve decided baby steps
are better than no steps at all. You have to start somewhere. I realized that
if you sit idly waiting for the “right time” to do something, you’ll be waiting
“Don’t talk about it, be about it” is the mantra for my life
this year. Too much talking and complaining won’t get you very far. Believe me,
I know firsthand.
I really had an epiphany during the last week of 2015 and it
got my gears turning. All I really want is to be intentional with my actions
this year so that I can grow as a person. Try not to get caught up in social
media. Some of it’s real, some of it isn’t. It’s so hard not to compare
yourself to friends and peers when you see people getting promotions and taking
trips to the Dominican Republic.
I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t do it! Been
there, done that. It doesn’t do you any good. Besides, I got my passport last
April and it’s valid for 10 years. I’ve got plenty of time to stamp it up. Baby
steps sis, baby steps.
While I’m not working on being intentional and purposeful, I
like to run my mouth on social media. You can catch me on Twitter
What are some ways you go about accomplishing or tracking your
goals? I’d love to know! Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment
section or leave me a tweet or comment on the ‘Gram.