I can't stand my job. The thought of being there stresses me out once Sunday night rolls around or an extended weekend is coming to an end. Since this month is Mental Health Awareness Month, I wanted to share some of the things I do to relieve stress in hopes of helping someone else.
Take a personal day. My mom calls them, "mental health days". I keep my PTO stacked for days when I just don't feel like being there. I like to extend my weekends when we have paid holidays too. There's nothing wrong with taking a day off to sleep in or get things done that you normally wouldn't have time to do. I had a mini meltdown a few weeks ago on a Sunday night and I made the executive decision to call in that Monday. I just needed an extra day to gather my thoughts and relax. Working a full-time job is already stressful, but working a job that you don't like or having to work overtime can be taxing. Save up that PTO for a rainy day!
adult coloring books with more intricate illustrations or you can keep it
simple and buy a kids coloring book for nostalgia’s sake.
Take a bath.
Showers are quick and more convenient during the week when you’re trying to get
ready for work or go to bed, but every now and then I like to take a bath and
use one of my Lush bath bombs. I turn on some music and chill for a little bit.
make you feel a million things. Create a playlist of relaxing songs or
write as often as I should, but when I pull out the journal, I feel better.
Sometimes I like to vent without talking to an actual person. I don’t always
want feedback and I don’t like bothering people with my problems all the time,
so journaling helps me release my feelings with no worries. It’s also a great
way to look back on how I felt back then and now I feel now. I still have a
diary from the fifth grade and it’s hilarious every time I read it.
noticed that when my house is messy, I’m more stressed and overwhelmed if there’s
clutter. When you get some free time, make sure you vacuum, wipe down your
counters and put away those clothes that have been in the hamper for two weeks.
A clean space makes a huge difference.
walk or a drive. When the weather is nice, I love opening my windows to let
fresh air into the house. I do the same when I’m driving. If you’ve got
sunshine and a breeze, girl take in some of that fresh air!
water and healthy eating habits improve my mood. There’s nothing wrong with
having a few Oreos or a bag of chips in moderation, but healthy eating is
better in the long run. Junky food is great in moderation, which is why I try
not to keep sweets in my house all the time. I have a
terrible sweet tooth.
I love candles. I can’t tell you how much money White Barn/Bath & Body
Works has gotten out of me. Burning candles are very relaxing. If candles
aren’t your thing, you can burn your favorite incense or add a few drops of
your favorite essential oil to an oil diffuser.
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Candles are great, but I definitely plan on
investing in a diffuser soon so I can reap the benefits of natural oils. Essential
oils can also be mixed into soaps, body butters, etc. so they’re an excellent
Unplug from social media. Social media is great, but it can also be a hinderance. It's good to go off the grid and unplug from time to time. Don't announce that you're taking a break. Just don't log in. I find that I'm more active on Twitter during the week, but I go missing on the weekends. Between the news updates on our "president" and the great $200 date debate, all of it wears me low and that's when I know it's time to go missing.
What are some healthy ways you like to unwind and relax? I’d love to
hear about them below!
Today marks the last year of my 20s and I’m still trying to
figure out where the time went.
Yesterday morning I didn’t want to be bothered or go out.
After reflecting on my last eight birthdays, I felt like I had squandered them
away. I haven’t had any extravagant birthday bashes or trips, but I’ve grown a
lot over the last eight years. Looking back on my 20th birthday all
the way up to today reminds me how far I’ve come. 2008 seems so long ago, but
it feels like I just turned 25.
After being in my feelings, I had to remind myself that
there’s no timeline on life. You won’t have it “together” at age 25 and you
won’t have it all figured out at 29 either.
I may not be exactly where I want to be, but I have another
chance to work towards it. Extravagant birthdays are nice, but lessons are
great too. I went into my birthday weekend thinking it was gonna suck because
of the rainy weather and it ended up being sunny today. I’m grateful for all my
friends and family who sent love my way today.
The last year of my 20s will be about me trying to become a
better version of myself as always. Eating more veggies, taking my ass to the
gym, not renewing a library book five times, ya know, little things.
So here’s to another year of growth, discovery and more life. 🌺. Sorry,
I had to do it. I love Drake and he just gets it. Deal.
Anyway, here’s to Year 29!
So you’re done with high school and you’re starting college
in a week. I know you wanted to go away for school, but you have some maturing
to do. You’ll get to leave, I promise. You may feel stagnant sometimes and
things might get tough, but you’ll get through it. Besides, you’ll be busy as
hell three years from now in a totally different environment. All of this is
temporary. Just knock these prerequisites out and keep it moving.
Well, you did it. You graduated from college. You thought
the day would never come, but it’s here! You were a totally different person
when you came to TSU at 20-years-old, but you’ve learned valuable lessons and
made lifelong friends in the process. When you think of this place, think about
what it took for you to get here and never take it for granted. You gained much
more than a degree.
Even though you matured and learned a lot about yourself,
college was still a safety net. It’s gonna be scary and stressful trying to
figure out what’s next, but do yourself a favor and relax. Listen to Dad. He
may sound insensitive now, but you need to go home. You didn’t have a plan
mapped out for post-graduation so the best thing for you to do is go home. Go home
and enjoy not having to do anything for the first time in five years. You’ll be
able to eat home cooked meals again and the days of sleeping in an extra large
twin bed and dragging your clothes to the laundry room to
wash clothes are done! Appreciate the little things.
Be prepared for growing pains. Be prepared to feel lost.
You’re gonna argue with Mom and Dad because parents don’t get it. Take
everything as a lesson and apply it in the future so you know how to navigate
it or help someone else navigate it. The same way you had to fight to get your
degree, you’ll have to fight even harder to find your place in the "real world". Oh yeah, start a savings account. You'll need it.
And last, but not least, do not put deadlines on your life.
Don’t stress yourself out because you aren’t living in a condo in NYC by age
25. We’ve been trained to think we have to set all these unrealistic goals by a
certain age in order to be “successful”. Five years from now, you won’t even
wanna move to New York. It sounds crazy now, but trust me on this. Be thankful
for the things you have and continue to work for the things you want.
Last thing, don’t become complacent, because that’s not who
you are. Be good to yourself and stay encouraged.
So here we are with an update – six months later. I’m
terrible, I know. As if I wasn’t already a slacker, the last five months of
2015 had me all over the place and overwhelmed, but here I am and happy new
year! I hope the first couple of weeks of 2016 have been good to you. They’ve
been okay and I feel a lot more driven this time around. I know in the past
I’ve said that this year would be “the year” that I did this and did that, but
I’m not gonna do that this year because it hasn’t been effective thus far.
I’m a procrastinator who gets so overwhelmed at the thought
of all the things I want to do that I end up doing nothing at all. Simply put, I
want to put an end to that this year. I acknowledge that I suck at resolutions
so I chose to stray away from that this year. I wrote out my goals for the
year, big and small. Things such as using my library card and drinking more
water are things I want to do.
(By the way, I’m participating in the Goodreads 2016 Reading
Challenge. Feel free to follow me here
I’m open to reading suggestions! I’m almost finished with #GIRLBOSS
by Sophia Amoruso. Next up is, Leave Your Mark
by Aliza Licht.
I also have major goals, but I’ve chosen not to speak on
them out loud. I’d just rather work towards them little by little. My friend
pointed out making monthly goals for herself instead since she doesn’t do well
with long-term goals. I’ve decided to give that a try. Because I get
overwhelmed to the point of not doing anything at all, I’ve decided baby steps
are better than no steps at all. You have to start somewhere. I realized that
if you sit idly waiting for the “right time” to do something, you’ll be waiting
“Don’t talk about it, be about it” is the mantra for my life
this year. Too much talking and complaining won’t get you very far. Believe me,
I know firsthand.
I really had an epiphany during the last week of 2015 and it
got my gears turning. All I really want is to be intentional with my actions
this year so that I can grow as a person. Try not to get caught up in social
media. Some of it’s real, some of it isn’t. It’s so hard not to compare
yourself to friends and peers when you see people getting promotions and taking
trips to the Dominican Republic.
I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t do it! Been
there, done that. It doesn’t do you any good. Besides, I got my passport last
April and it’s valid for 10 years. I’ve got plenty of time to stamp it up. Baby
steps sis, baby steps.
While I’m not working on being intentional and purposeful, I
like to run my mouth on social media. You can catch me on Twitter
What are some ways you go about accomplishing or tracking your
goals? I’d love to know! Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment
section or leave me a tweet or comment on the ‘Gram.