So you’re done with high school and you’re starting college
in a week. I know you wanted to go away for school, but you have some maturing
to do. You’ll get to leave, I promise. You may feel stagnant sometimes and
things might get tough, but you’ll get through it. Besides, you’ll be busy as
hell three years from now in a totally different environment. All of this is
temporary. Just knock these prerequisites out and keep it moving.
Well, you did it. You graduated from college. You thought
the day would never come, but it’s here! You were a totally different person
when you came to TSU at 20-years-old, but you’ve learned valuable lessons and
made lifelong friends in the process. When you think of this place, think about
what it took for you to get here and never take it for granted. You gained much
more than a degree.
Even though you matured and learned a lot about yourself,
college was still a safety net. It’s gonna be scary and stressful trying to
figure out what’s next, but do yourself a favor and relax. Listen to Dad. He
may sound insensitive now, but you need to go home. You didn’t have a plan
mapped out for post-graduation so the best thing you you to do is go home. Go home
and enjoy not having to do anything for the first time in five years. You’ll be
able to eat home cooked meals again and the days of sleeping in an extra large
twin bed and dragging your clothes to the laundry room across the complex to
wash clothes are done! Appreciate the little things.
Be prepared for growing pains. Be prepared to feel lost.
You’re gonna argue with Mom and Dad because parents don’t get it. Take
everything as a lesson and apply it in the future so you know how to navigate
it or help someone else navigate it. The same way you had to fight to get your
degree, you’ll have to fight even harder for a career. Start a savings account.
And last, but not least, do not put deadlines on your life.
Don’t stress yourself out because you aren’t living in a condo in NYC by age
25. We’ve been trained to think we have to set all these unrealistic goals by a
certain age in order to be “successful”. Five years from now, you won’t even
wanna move to New York. It sounds crazy now, but trust me on this. Be thankful
for the things you have and continue to work for the things you want.
Last thing, don’t become complacent, because that’s not who
you are. Be good to yourself and stay encouraged.
So here we are with an update – six months later I’m
terrible, I know. As if I wasn’t already a slacker, the last five months of
2015 had me all over the place and overwhelmed, but here I am and happy new
year! I hope the first couple of weeks of 2016 have been good to you. They’ve
been okay and I feel a lot more driven this time around. I know in the past
I’ve said that this year would be “the year” that I did this and did that, but
I’m not gonna do that this year because it hasn’t been effective thus far.
I’m a procrastinator who gets so overwhelmed at the thought
of all the things I want to do that I end up doing nothing at all. Simply put, I
want to put an end to that this year. I acknowledge that I suck at resolutions
so I chose to stray away from that this year. I wrote out my goals for the
year, big and small. Things such as using my library card and drinking more
water are things I want to do.
(By the way, I’m participating in the Goodreads 2016 Reading
Challenge. Feel free to follow me here
I’m open to reading suggestions! I’m almost finished with #GIRLBOSS
by Sophia Amoruso. Next up is, Leave Your Mark
by Aliza Licht.
I also have major goals, but I’ve chosen not to speak on
them out loud. I’d just rather work towards them little by little. My friend
pointed out making monthly goals for herself instead since she doesn’t do well
with long-term goals. I’ve decided to give that a try. Because I get
overwhelmed to the point of not doing anything at all, I’ve decided baby steps
are better than no steps at all. You have to start somewhere. I realized that
if you sit idly waiting for the “right time” to do something, you’ll be waiting
“Don’t talk about it, be about it” is the mantra for my life
this year. Too much talking and complaining won’t get you very far. Believe me,
I know firsthand.
I really had an epiphany during the last week of 2015 and it
got my gears turning. All I really want is to be intentional with my actions
this year so that I can grow as a person. Try not to get caught up in social
media. Some of it’s real, some of it isn’t. It’s so hard not to compare
yourself to friends and peers when you see people getting promotions and taking
trips to the Dominican Republic.
I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t do it! Been
there, done that. It doesn’t do you any good. Besides, I got my passport last
April and it’s valid for 10 years. I’ve got plenty of time to stamp it up. Baby
steps sis, baby steps.
While I’m not working on being intentional and purposeful, I
like to run my mouth on social media. You can catch me on Twitter
What are some ways you go about accomplishing or tracking your
goals? I’d love to know! Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment
section or leave me a tweet or comment on the ‘Gram.
victim to seeing what other people were doing and admiring it, but getting
discouraged all at the same time because I didn’t feel like I had what it took to be successful.
For a while, I didn’t wanna write anymore. I didn’t wanna be a journalist anymore. I
didn’t want any part of it anymore. I wanted a workaround instead. I’ve been overwhelmed, stressed and
discouraged and I’ve allowed it to get in the way of something that I’ve always
wanted to do.
of the reason while I’ve been going back and forth about grad school for the
last three years. It’s also part of the reason why my blog isn’t where I would
like it to be. I’ve allowed my fear to psych me out. I’ve allowed my full-time
job to be the priority and doing nothing when I get home every night. While I’m trying to find out where to go next, I’ve put
this space on the back burner.
feel like what I have to say is relevant enough to speak on. I just didn’t want
to be another cliché blogger with a bunch of cliché think pieces and other crap
I don’t care about for site traffic. Yeah, I want site traffic, but I want it
for the right reasons. I want people to come here and be able to relate. I want
people to come here and leave with gems.
nothing wrong with working a 9-5. Hell, I work a 9-5 right now, but I don’t
want that to be my story.
out my passion when I was 16-years-old and I thought it would come to fruition
by the time I graduated from college. Well, shit happens. It all depends on how
you handle what life throws at you. I’ve known this all along, and I can give
other people the sermon, but when it comes to myself, I come up empty. It’s
time that I practice what I preach. I know what I’m capable of and it's time to get to work.
change you want to see in the world.” – Mahatma Ghandi
It may be
cliché, but it’s true. I won’t know until I try. If I look up and years
have gone by and I sit wondering about what I could’ve done and should’ve done,
I’ll never forgive myself. I looked at my post from New Year’s Day and shook my
head because the year is halfway over and I’ve got nothing to show for it. I’ve
still got time to make 2015 count so I’m going to do all I can to make better
use of my free time.
know where this is gonna lead me or how it will turn out. I don’t know if the
people that claim they support me will actually support me. I just have to have
faith in myself, go with my gut and do it. I’ve been doubted in the past. I’ve
been told what I shouldn’t do or couldn’t do, but I did it anyway.
of the outcome, but I’ll never know if I don’t put forth the effort to be
to be brave and stop talking about my dreams and doing all I can to make it a
reality. It's so hard to get down when you see your peers doing well and you feel stuck. I've allowed that to hold me back for too long and I've decided to put an end to it. If they can do it, I can do it. Do it in your own time. Do it because will make you a better person. Everyone loves recognition, but don't do it solely for recognition. Do it because it's something you believe in.
To those of
you who read my little ol’ blog, thank you. To those of you who have given me
words of encouragement, thank you.
I’m not big
on posting every little thing I’m thinking or doing online, but just know that
you can expect change around here.