During our late teens and early 20s
we’ve always been taught that age 25 is a major milestone and that we should
have reached major accomplishments by this age because well… we’re 5 years away
from the big 3-0. I’ll be the first to admit I’ve lived by this unwritten rule
that I must have accomplished “everything” by age 25, but I’ve recently had a
change of heart and a bit of a reality check. I’ll be celebrating my 25th
in 2013 and I’ve come to the realization that there is no way I’ll have all
these things accomplished in that short amount of time.
I’m not saying it’s
impossible, because it’s happened for others, but sometimes you just can’t rush
greatness. A lot of my peers from undergrad are still in school working on
receiving degrees in grad school, dental school, etc. and that can take up to
four years alone. Instead of beating yourself up about what you haven’t
accomplished, look at the list of things you’ve already done and just work
on adding to it.
There’s nothing wrong with being
eager and wanting more for your self, but putting deadlines on everything isn’t
realistic all the time. Some things just take a little bit more time. The same way people
say they want to be married with kids by such and such time is the same way I
felt about my life and career at one point. I’ve always dismissed deadlines
when it came to my love life and having children because I believe those types
of things will happen for me when they’re supposed to.
Then I realized that was
the pot calling the kettle so I’ve had to revise my way of thinking and realize
everything won’t happen overnight. Some things take time and dedication and it will
fall into place if you play your cards right. So the next time you’re feeling
down about how your life is going and you feel like things aren’t happening fast enough for
you, write out your goals, look them over, figure out what you need to do to
get there and do work. Remember: Rome wasn’t built in a day!