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Advice To Myself: Past & Present
Posted on April 20, 2014

You’re not going to have life figured out immediately after graduation. It’s a process. Some days will be fulfilling and others will be discouraging. Appreciate your triumphs and work on your weaknesses. Take heed to advice, but don’t feel obligated to live by it. Your life is yours to live and you should focus on your happiness. It’s okay to feel misunderstood. Somebody out there gets it. Find those people and talk. It will make you feel a hell of a lot better about your situation.

There’s a light at the end of the tunnel. It’s okay to make pit stops along the way while finding your way to the final destination. Patience is a virtue. Feeling stagnant is normal during this time in your life. Feeling discouraged and uncertain are some of the scariest emotions in the world, but you overcome it. Continue to build day by day. Don’t settle. Just because you’re in a comfortable position, don’t make it final.

If you feel like you have something to share with the world and you’re not happy with the present, build towards the future. Being content and complacent are two different things. Don’t confuse the two.

Don’t follow co-workers on social networks. Unless it’s LinkedIn, keep it cute. Make connections in the workplace, but watch who you fraternize with. Mom and Dad may have grown up differently, but take heed to some of their advice. Not only are they more experienced, but they’re rooting for you even when it doesn’t feel like it. Don’t dim your light to make others happy. They won’t do the same for you. It’s hard being a Black woman with an opinion, but that’s what makes you, you.

Don’t listen to the advice of those who are hell bent on you having children and getting married. You weren’t put on this earth to be someone’s wife and mother only. It’s okay to want to be selfish and carefree. You’re nobody’s wife or mother, so do what you wanna do. If you want to start a family later down the line, great! If not, that's cool too!

Don’t put other women down to build yourself up for the sake of a man. It’s tacky and it screams, “low self esteem”.

Create something you can be proud of. Set an example for little Black girls everywhere. We need to stick together.

Drink water and eat fruits and veggies. Be active. Your body will thank you 20 years from now. 

And for the love of God, write more. If that's what you wanna do for a living, make time for it. 

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